we make our own path in life. It should not surprise anyone when they get exactly what they ask for. We should not be angry when life turns out a certain way, we are the ones who created it.
FEELINGS are not our identity
We have multiple selves, fragmented and all taking turns as the driver. The other facets of ourselves are in the passenger seats and sometimes locked up in the trunk. We have to be fluid with who we need behind the wheel.